The H Story

Originally written on old site back in January 05.

I debated about posting this. Really I did. First, because the major player involved might could read this. Second, because even if they don’t read, people who know the major player might could read it, recognize the circumstances described, then tell said player. Third, because I specifically told one of the players, the co-star, to keep this incident between us. BUT, on the other hand, I feel like I owe it to you people. It’s a good story and I’ve been MIA for the last few days and will likely be MIA for half of this week. In the end, my obligation to you, the sweet readers, won out. PLUS, if the co-star does find out about it and decide to discuss this with anyone, she will only come out looking like a tramp.

Go ahead and get a snack, because this might could be long. So long, that I might do it in parts. But I have made no decision yet.

Loyal readers, sometimes the good Lawd tests us. Here’s one of those tests. Let’s see how Tawanna handles it.

There was a young lady named Tawanna. There was a guy she saw named Zachary. Tawanna had a “friend” named Hillary. The players are Tawanna, Hilary, and Zach(Z isn’t really important though). One day, Zach pulled Tawanna to the side and started talking about how he enjoys hanging out with her friends. He went on to ask how she’d met the people, etc. T, being completely honest, told Z that while she loves hanging out with the group, in that group is not where he’d find the people closest to her. Further, although they were great fun to hang with, she chooses to keep her social and real friend circles separate. Z seemed to understand.

Later in the conversation, Z dropped what could have been a bomb on T. Z said that once, while he was hanging out with T and her groups of “friends”, her girl H hit on him. Always thinking, T controlled her reaction. Even asked if H had tilted her head, parted her lips slightly, and stared at him. Z told her this wasn’t what H did, but she certainly left him with the impression that he could visit her without T. T couldn’t stop laughing. Not because it was funny because it was, but because this is the type of behavior she might expect from H. Not one to ignore an effort at honesty, T told Z that he handled it well.

Background on H: This isn’t the first time she’s done this. For those familiar with my other page, this is the same chick who hit on KS. And remember he followed T to the bathroom to get away from H. Further, this is the same KS who said H is the type that, in his youth (remember KS is an old man), he would screw, date T, never take H anywhere and H would be cool with it. Eh. He thought he was schooling T but she’d already peeped the scene. And hell, who knows, maybe he did take that route with H. But T bets H will never call him KS (inside joke for folks reading from the other page).

Some folks are wondering why T would hang around with H. For the most part T didn’t. But H is a part of a bigger circle. And surprisingly, H is one of those people who will go above and beyond to help people and expect nothing in return. Because for real, save for her being a tramp, she actually is an OK person. Are you now saying T shouldn’t bring men around H? Well why not? T was a member of this social circle first and T will not be inconvenienced by some tramp. Just won’t happen.

T’s first instinct was just to keep an eye on H without saying anything. Then T realized, H is over 30. There’s no way H doesn’t know what she’s doing. But H thinks T doesn’t know what she’s doing. So, being in a giving mood, T decided to have a chat with H.

Before T could have the chat, they saw each other out where drinks were being consumed. It took T years to figure this out, but no civil talk should be attempted after sucking down a hand full of drinks. H showed up at the spot. The group sat, had more drinks. Then Z calls T. T had her cell on the table so when it rings H sees who is calling. H also hears T giving Z the address. So soon as T hung up, H decided she just had to go out to the bank. Could she be trying to head Z off at the pass? If that was her plan, Gawd help her. H came back from the bank. But when H came back she didn’t sit where she’d been sitting before. Instead, H sat where there would be one empty seat right beside her. Oh, the sophomoric gaming. What was she going to do–rub his leg?

About 20 minutes later, Z arrives, When he comes in, guess who yells out an un-called for greeting? You got it. H!! T stood up to greet Z quietly. Except, when T sat down, T didn’t sit in her original seat. Which meant Z sat in it and T sat in the only empty seat left–the one H had created beside her. Eh. Nothing annoys us more than a lower case game-having tramp.

Shortly after Z got his first drink, the rest of the group, H included, left.

Mind you, they still hadn’t had the talk. But H knows it’s coming because T told her earlier in the day. Wouldn’t you know it, just as Z sat down, H decided this was the perfect time to question T about what they needed to talk about. At one point, this tramp threatened to get loud. Now see, this is what happens when a b*tch like T is consistently nice to low budget hoes on any regular basis. They take her kindness as foolish meekness.

This is when T knew she’d grown up. Because just a couple of years ago, when challenged with someone’s threat of getting loud with her, T would have went off. T would not have stopped until someone was crying. And not crying from physical pain. Crying from their whole ego being crushed into so many pieces her victim would need years of therapy to re-gain an ounce of self-esteem. But alas, T has grown up.

The next day, T made it her business to talk to H. She didn’t hold any punches. But was tactful. T told H the overall message Z had gotten from his interactions with H. H denied. But really, T didn’t expect her to come out and say, “Dang, you caught me. I’m a tramp who will spread my legs for any man I see.” And T didn’t care. She knew this was more about issuing a warning. Putting H on notice. Because, T knew what was up. T knew she couldn’t change H’s behavior. But she knew that WHEN (notice I didn’t use ‘if’) H tried this again, H wouldn’t be surprised when T ripped a whole into her soul.

There were layers of denial. H tried the old, Who-me defense. T met it with a “Yeah you.” But what she was thinking was, “This b*tch is tryna play me. It’s on!” H tried the old, I’m-a-close-talker defense. T met her with “Ain’t that much close talking in the world. What about KS?” But T was really thinking, “B*tch who is you playin’ wit’. It’s f*cking on. Damn let me not remember to smile.” H tried the I-would-never defense. T referred back to the KS situation. H tried the old do-you-think-I-would defense. Coupled with the do-you-want-me-to-talk-to-Z offer. Bwahahahaaaa!!!!!! Then when that didn’t move T, H went for the understanding defense saying that she’d had a similar conversation with another woman in the group about the woman’s husband. T was too through. T was thinking, “Lawd. Make. It. Stop.” H just wouldn’t let her defense rest. H’s defense had holes all up and through it and the situation was becoming laughable because as mentioned before, T was issuing a warning. Not so much a request.

T might have let this rest if the situation hadn’t happened when Z joined the group for drinks. H had calculated the whole thing. But she incorrectly calculated T’s ability to peep game. But now, no matter how friend T continues to seem, she’s on her P’s and Q’s, as Cedric the Entertainer said, JUST WISHING A MUHFUGGA WOULD. It could be Z or any other dude. Because really, the dude isn’t important. In 2003 and 2004, T tried focusing on the good in people. See where it’s gotten her. Tramps trying to run 8th grade game!!! And T, she’s not having it. Petty? Yes. Necessary? Mos def!

People, sometimes, the good Lawd tests us. Sometimes, the Lawd puts us in situations where we need to make choices. We could go the loud route or we could go the quiet route. But the thing is, after we pass Gawd’s first tests, does s/he really expect us to take the same route when given a similar test on the same subject?? OR. Is gawd also testing the other person. And if the Lawd is testing all parties, wouldn’t it be right for T to tear into H when H fails the test Gawd will give her the next time a new guy is around?