My mom, Gawd bless her, she’s cool. But not when it comes to my brother. My brother, the one she gave birth to is 20. He’s never been the whoring type of guy. Or at least he’s never had a bunch of chicks calling and coming by the house. Matter of fact, he’s had girlfriends for the most part. My mother never frowned on this because he has to learn to interact with the opposite sex. A lot of people don’t want their teens to have significant others but my mom’s of the belief that as long as it’s controlled it’s alright. I agree. Not that my brother is still in his teens. Those chicks I went to college with, the ones who weren’t allowed to get withing 50 feet of a boy outside of school, ALL of them got knocked up in semester one.
The thing is, I think Mom’s way to concerned about if a woman is getting over on my brother. It’s the gift giving season right? And I bet she gets all hyper sensitive about what he gets his girlfriend. On the flip side, she doesn’t realize that my brother treats women the way my mother expects men to treat me. Which is a good thing.
My mother and I don’t particularly care for the current girlfriend. But I’m sure that this isn’t why she’s overly concerned. She was overly concerned about the previous chick and she liked her. I don’t like the girl and it’s not a big deal for me because it’s not like he’s going to marry her. She won’t be around much longer.
What’s really up with mothers and their grown sons? I’ve watched mothers be kind to every woman her son brings around. Kind all the way up until she thinks he’s bringing a woman around he might marry. I’ve watched mothers use everything under the sun to manipulate their sons out of the relationship. From saying foul shyt to the woman when her son isn’t around to just trying to keep her nose in their business. I don’t get this. It’s like they think they are loosing their son. But to me, the focus should be on their son’s happiness. Afterall, aren’t parents supposed to want that for their kids? Fathers don’t behave this way with their daughters.
What about in marriage?? Isn’t there something about foresaking all others in the Bible?? Some mothers, especially if they are single, have a mission to keep their hands in their son’s pockets. Or hell, even keep him in her pocket. Damn. Let his ass go and get a damn life. This is crazy to me. Especially since as best I can tell (based on my own experiences and observations) these women usually didn’t have a hand in getting their sons to financial independence. Matter of fact, I’ve seen this happen with a mother and a daughter too. The mother didn’t even raise the girl. But when the girl married into wealth, momma had her hand out. And in marriage, money can be enough of a problem between the couple. You damn sure don’t want an in-law putting their nose and hands in your financial business. At least I don’t. Men, forsake all others for your wife. And let you mothers know the damn deal.
Men, do you all even realize when your mother is on some shyt?? I know you don’t really pay much attention to the foul things women your age do. So then it’s probably more likely that you don’t see it when your mommy does it. Then again, mothers are usually slick enough to do it out of her son’s sight. Might I suggest that you kindly remind her of her place in your life. She’s your mother not your BOO!!
Mothers, they seem to like me and I’ve never really had any problems with them (knock on wood). Maybe because they usually live far. And I’m cool with that because there’s nothing worse than your man’s mother calling you at 7 in the freaking morning suggesting y’all spend the dayum day together. It’s happened to me and I would have much rather be forced to do anything else. Let’s just say when the day was over, I had my fill of her ass forever. Now that I think about it, that was probably her plan. See, had I wiggled out of going, she could elude to me being a liar who didn’t want to spend quality time with her ass. Uh, her own daughter doesn’t kick it with her so why should I? And if I been all sour-faced during our quality time, she would most certainly be complaining to her son.
During our Women’s Retreat this past weekend, someone made a good point. She said she is never herself around her man’s family. She went on to say, she’s just as fake around his parents (family) as she would be around anyone’s parents. And when I think about it, I don’t keep it real around anyone’s parents. So I damn sure am not tryna roll into my man’s family’s house cursing and drinking as I’ve been known to do. Sheeeit!!! But when you’re married, this tactic could prove more difficult. Unless his family lives far. Does it sound like I’m a proponent of only dealing with people whose family is far away? I’m not. They could live across the street so long as they know the difference between our home and thiers. So long as his mother knows that while he is her son, he’s my husband and he has his own family.
Anyhow, men, get your momma ‘nem in check. It doesn’t have to be mean. Just let her know you will always love her as your mother. But dammit, she can’t keep you as hers for the rest of your life. Lest you become a serial killer.
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